Published: Sunday, June 21, 2009
Be a better father than my own, Obama urges
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Associated Press
Barack Obama, then an Illinois senator, walks down a beach in Kailua, Hawaii, with daughters Malia (left) and Sasha during an August vacation.
WASHINGTON -- Barack Obama got a basketball, his first name and ambition from his father. Little else.
The son gave back more than he received: a lifetime of ruminations about the man who abandoned the family, a memoir named "Dreams from My Father," and endless reflections on his own successes and shortcomings as a parent of Sasha, 8, and Malia, 10.
As a candidate and now president, he's been telling men what sort of father they should be. It's become his Father's Day ritual.
He's asking American men to be better fathers than his own.
The president showcased fatherhood in a series of events and a magazine article in advance of Father's Day today. He said he came to understand the importance of fatherhood from its absence in his childhood homes -- just as an estimated 24 million Americans today are growing up without a dad.
A Kenyan goatherder-turned-intellectual who clawed his way to scholarships and Harvard, Barack Hussein Obama Sr. left a family behind to get his schooling in the United States. He started another family here, then left his second wife and 2-year-old Barack Jr. to return to Africa with another woman.
His promise flamed out in Africa after stints working for an oil company and the government; he fell into drink and died in a car crash when his son was 21, a student at Columbia University.
"I don't want to be the kind of father I had," the president is quoted as telling a friend in a new book about him.
And in an interview Friday with CBS News, Obama said: "It was only later in life that I found out that he actually led a very tragic life. And in that sense, it was the myth that I was chasing as opposed to knowing who he really was."
Some past quotes from Obama on Father's Day:
Father's Day 2007: "Let's admit to ourselves that there are a lot of men out there that need to stop acting like boys; who need to realize that responsibility does not end at conception; who need to know that what makes you a man is not the ability to have a child but the courage to raise a child."
Father's Day 2008: "Any fool can have a child. That doesn't make you a father. It's the courage to raise a child that makes you a father."
Father's Day 2009: "We need to step out of our own heads and tune in. We need to turn off the television and start talking with our kids, and listening to them, and understanding what's going on in their lives."
The son gave back more than he received: a lifetime of ruminations about the man who abandoned the family, a memoir named "Dreams from My Father," and endless reflections on his own successes and shortcomings as a parent of Sasha, 8, and Malia, 10.
As a candidate and now president, he's been telling men what sort of father they should be. It's become his Father's Day ritual.
He's asking American men to be better fathers than his own.
The president showcased fatherhood in a series of events and a magazine article in advance of Father's Day today. He said he came to understand the importance of fatherhood from its absence in his childhood homes -- just as an estimated 24 million Americans today are growing up without a dad.
A Kenyan goatherder-turned-intellectual who clawed his way to scholarships and Harvard, Barack Hussein Obama Sr. left a family behind to get his schooling in the United States. He started another family here, then left his second wife and 2-year-old Barack Jr. to return to Africa with another woman.
His promise flamed out in Africa after stints working for an oil company and the government; he fell into drink and died in a car crash when his son was 21, a student at Columbia University.
"I don't want to be the kind of father I had," the president is quoted as telling a friend in a new book about him.
And in an interview Friday with CBS News, Obama said: "It was only later in life that I found out that he actually led a very tragic life. And in that sense, it was the myth that I was chasing as opposed to knowing who he really was."
Some past quotes from Obama on Father's Day:
Father's Day 2007: "Let's admit to ourselves that there are a lot of men out there that need to stop acting like boys; who need to realize that responsibility does not end at conception; who need to know that what makes you a man is not the ability to have a child but the courage to raise a child."
Father's Day 2008: "Any fool can have a child. That doesn't make you a father. It's the courage to raise a child that makes you a father."
Father's Day 2009: "We need to step out of our own heads and tune in. We need to turn off the television and start talking with our kids, and listening to them, and understanding what's going on in their lives."
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