That's especially true when we talk about overspending on stuff, which can lead to debt and stress.
It's easy to say you'd like to simplify your life and buy less. But how do you do that? How do you harness the desire for material things? How can you simplify without feeling deprived?
Danny Kofke's family of four has lived for years on his teacher's salary of about $40,000, yet he doesn't feel deprived.
He has a 50-inch, high-definition flat-screen television, and he has taken his daughters on vacation to Disney World. But he doesn't have many other things his neighbors do.
It's a choice, said Kofke, author of the book, "A Simple Book of Financial Wisdom: Teach Yourself (and Your Kids) How to Live Wealthy With Little Money."
"We have nice things; we just don't have it all," he said.
Wanting less means he can afford to keep his teaching job, which he loves. And his wife has been able to stay home with their children.
If you have found that keeping up with Joneses has become an all-out sprint and you're tired of it, here are some notions that can help.
Contentment: Simplifying is foremost a mindset. Many Americans are on what economists call a "hedonic treadmill." As they earn more, they want more and consume more. They never get closer to their goal of contentment.
The notion of the simplifying game is, "It's not about having what you want, but wanting what you have."
Enough: What's the dollar figure at which you feel you earn enough? How many pairs of shoes are enough? How many televisions in your home are enough?
"Unless you've asked how much is enough for you, how will you ever know when when you can call off your own personal war-for-more and be happy?" said Jeff Yeager, author of "The Cheapskate Next Door: The Surprising Secrets of Americans Living Happily Below Their Means."
Calendar trick: Brainstorm a list of what's truly important to you. Then open your calendar and your checkbook (or credit card statement).
How did you spend your time and money during the past few months? The answer is evidence of what has been important to you because that's where you spent your time and money.
How does that match up with what you want to be important in the future?
Your list of important things becomes the basis for goal setting. When you have goals, it makes saying "no" to immediate purchases far easier.
Fiscal fast: Start cutting expenses, especially optional ones that show up on your credit or debit card statement every month, such as subscriptions. You might cut all spending for a period.
"If you go for a week without spending money, it reminds you of how much stuff you already have," Yeager said.
Look for spending trends and triggers for overspending. When you learn you spend $800 a month dining out, ask an important question, "Is that what I want to spend money on?"
Temptation: Stay away from advertising and try to eliminate temptations. That might mean unsubscribing from retail emails and catalogs or staying out of the shopping mall.
Inventory: Take stock of all you already have: school supplies, groceries, cleaning products, party supplies, clothes and personal care items.
"We're so quick to run to the store that we don't stop a minute and see what we have," said Annette Economides, co-author with her husband of "America's Cheapest Family Gets You Right on the Money."
An exercise: Every night before you fall asleep, recall everything you bought that day, Yeager said.
Use cash: Some find it helps to use a simple system of putting cash in envelopes for a few common expenses such as groceries and entertainment. When the envelope is empty, you stop spending.
10-10-10: Before making a big or complicated purchase, ask yourself how it will affect your life in 10 minutes, 10 months and 10 years. Espoused by Suzy Welch in her book, "10-10-10: A Life-Transforming Idea," it makes decisions less impulsive and more deliberate.
Cool off: When you're hit with a desire to spend on a discretionary purchase, wait. Some say wait a day for every $100 in purchase price.
Hours worked: Calculate how much you earn per hour, after taxes: basically your net pay divided by number of hours worked. When considering a purchase, consider how many hours you will have to work to pay for it.
Simple simplicity: Identify what's important to you. Eliminate everything else.
Kofke said simplifying his spending makes all the difference for his family. "I think we have it good, and we have enough," he said.
Gregory Karp, the author of "Living Rich by Spending Smart," writes for The Chicago Tribune. Readers may send him email at gkarptribune.com.
MORE HBJ HEADLINES
How County Market landed in Lake Stevens First look: 2016 Volvo XC90 10:44 a.m. Briefs: Providence nominated for most beautiful hospital in U.S. 9:55 a.m. Workers’ group to FIFA sponsors: Qatar a blot on your brand 9:28 a.m. Russian rocket with Boeing satellite burns up after launch New ceramic a big boost for jet engines
Our new comment system is not supported in IE 7. Please upgrade your browser here.