14 ways to loosen cellphone's grip on your life
When people can't get through dinner without responding to their phone's pings, or they avoid vacations for fear of being somewhere without cell reception, or they so restlessly check their Facebook and Twitter feeds that they walk blindly into traffic -- it may be a sign that the white-knuckled grip people have on their phones is actually the phones' grip on them.
If less than 20 seconds pass before you itch to take another look at your phone, you may benefit from a digital diet.
Here are 14 exercises to help you practice phone restraint.
Charge your phone outside of your bedroom so you don't plunge into the digital stream as soon as you open your eyes, said Daniel Sieberg, author of "The Digital Diet."
Don't check your work email until you get to work. Remember when work was the only place you could check it? The company survived then, and it will continue to survive.
Keep your phone off the table during meals so that you're not interrupted or tempted to fiddle with it, Sieberg said.
Play "phone stack" when dining with friends to give everyone a financial incentive to focus on the flesh-and-blood humans in front of them. Here's how: Everyone puts their phones on the table, face down, stacked one on top of the other. The first person to grab his/her phone has to pick up the whole tab.
Experience something first, post about it later, Sieberg said. Interrupting the activity you're engaged in to tweet or post photos of said activity distracts from your enjoyment of the experience, especially when you then keep checking to see if anyone has commented. Wait until later to post. It will still have happened.
On a vacation, compose your out-of-office reply to say that any correspondence sent during that time will self-destruct; if it's important, people will just have to contact you upon your return.
Leave your phone behind when you go on a walk or to the gym or take a lunch break or any other time you don't really need it. Recognize the fact that you have survived without it upon your return.
Log out of Facebook every time you close the page, suggests Nancy Baym, author of "Personal Connections in the Digital Age." Just having the extra step of logging on each time you pull up Facebook can make you reconsider whether it's really what you want to do.
Establish "tech breaks," during which you spend a minute or two catching up on your virtual social connections before turning your phone on silent and placing it face down, suggests research psychologist Larry Rosen. Wait 15 minutes before you allow yourself to look at your phone again (set an alarm). As you become accustomed to letting it sit, lengthen the time between tech breaks.
Take 10 minutes out of each hour or two to put away your technology and do something that neuroscientists have found calms the brain, Rosen said. Look at nature, listen to music, exercise, talk live to a friend, meditate.
Abstain from automatically whipping out your phone any moment you find yourself alone. Instead, take in the scene around you. Strike up a conversation with a stranger. Think deep thoughts.
Only look at your phone when you're not engaged in another task, not while you're walking, not while you're driving, not while you're paying for your coffee, not while you're in the middle of a conversation.
Put your phone in the trunk while you drive.
Keep your phone on silent. When you happen to look at it later, you can see what you missed. iPhone users can also use the new "Do Not Disturb" feature that quiets incoming calls or messages for a designated period of time while allowing certain "favorite" contacts to ring through.
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