Sure, there are parents out there who donít volunteer, but my guess is they are in the minority. A more likely assumption is that the parent who isnít volunteering for Girl Scouts is coaching soccer. The dad who wonít help at soccer is coaching tennis. The slacker at tennis is teaching art to 60 third-graders every week. The mom who doesnít volunteer in the classroom is on a committee to improve the school playground. The parent who wonít ever join a committee spent six years doing co-op preschool when his kids were little.
You and I probably donít know the half of it.
Then there are the families dealing with alternative work schedules. Dads who work all night, moms who start their commute at 3 a.m.; some parents deal with challenges I can only imagine. Just because they donít show up to PTA meetings, doesnít mean they donít care.
The world at large likes to make a big deal about the supposed ďMommy Wars,Ē but I donít see that in our community at all. Stay-at-home parents and working parents are all actively involved in their kidsí lives. They just show up during different times of the day.
Part of our collective problem is that a typical middle-class childhood is so hard to achieve. What could be more normal that a 10-year-old playing a sport, being a Scout and taking piano lessons? In reality, that schedule bleeds money, car time and volunteer hours ó and thatís just for one kid. Add a siblingís extracurricular into the mix and youíre really in trouble.
Of course, none of that understanding makes it easier for your fill-in-the-blank organization. You need parents to volunteer this week. Right now! Youíre burnt out. You canít do it all on your own. You need help or your program will suffer. Kids will have less fun!
So what are you supposed to do as you stare into a sea of burnt-out, over-committed volunteers? How do you ask for help from people who struggle with helping too much?
I donít know. Itís March, and Iím all out of energy. I just spent two hours doing a Girl Scouts webinar so that I can lead a Daisy troop this fall. Now I need to update the treasurer books for the parent organization at my sonís school.
At least Little League practice is tonight. Iím just going to sit on my butt and watch.
Jennifer Bardsley is an Edmonds mom of two and blogs at http://teachingmybabytoread.com.
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