Q: My baby is nearly 2. When’s the right time to start potty training and how do we do it?
A: I’ve always maintained that changing diapers is a highly underrated bonding experience — especially for dads. But no matter how fondly you recall the experience, most of us are delighted when we can put that stage behind us.
Although most kids look forward to using the toilet on their own, they’re easily frustrated by inevitable accidents. And navigating that gray area between diapers and underwear can be hard on you, too. Here are some tips to making toilet training as painless as possible for everyone concerned.
Is he or she ready? Trying to toilet train a child who’s not ready will likely extend the process. And don’t start training when there are other big changes in your child’s life, such as illness, divorce, a death in the family (even of a pet) or moving to a new home.
One step at a time. Forget the stories you’ve heard about children who went from diapers to underwear in a day. Toilet training is a process that usually involves distinct steps learned over time. Start by leaving a potty seat on the floor of the bathroom for a few days; tell your child that the little toilet is for her, and the big one is for grown-ups. A few days later, have her sit on the seat (fully clothed is fine). After another few days, ask your child several times every day whether you can take off her diaper so she can sit on her special seat.
The right equipment. Potty seats should be low enough that both feet can rest firmly on the floor. Skip the urine deflectors (shields that attach to the front of the seat to keep boys’ urine inside the toilet). They seem like a great idea but can sometimes hurt boys who don’t sit down exactly right, and the last thing you want is for your child to associate going to the bathroom with pain.
Some seats have multiple stages, starting as a child-sized seat that sits on the floor, then converting to an adapter that sits on a regular seat. Some even play music when a child sits down.
Reduce or eliminate liquids within an hour of bedtime. This will increase the chances that your child will wake up dry, which will be a big confidence booster.
Be positive, but don’t go overboard. Too much excitement about the contents of a diaper can give a toddler the idea that what he’s produced is especially valuable, a twisted notion that may result in him wanting to keep it for himself (inside his body if necessary).
Make it fun. Boys in the early stages of toilet training are notoriously bad at aiming. Putting some Cheerios or other targets in the water, or adding some blue food coloring (which turns green when the yellow urine hits it), can make urinating more fun for your son and less messy for you. Boys and girls also might like to have books to look at or a special “potty partner” to keep them company while they’re on the throne.
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