Sept. 11 spurs more to get in a family way

By Martha Irvine

Associated Press

The words came to Ann Travers as she watched her husband sleep that night: “He’s going to make an excellent father.”

And there it was, the answer she’d been searching for – her personal response to tragedy after walking out of Manhattan and turning to watch the World Trade Center collapse.

Little more than 10 days later, she was pregnant. Not long after, so was Stacey Stapleton, who made the decision with husband Paul to have a child as fighter jets flew over their Manhattan apartment. Anthony Andreano and wife, Tamara, who live on Staten Island, also have started trying to conceive a Christmas surprise for their families.

While the trend may be strongest in New York, doctors say people nationwide seem to be shunning talk of a world gone wrong and pursuing pregnancy not just in spite of, but because of, the Sept. 11 attacks.

“It’s the ‘carpe diem’ mode,” says Dr. Michael Silverstein, an obstetrician and gynecologist at NYU Medical Center in Manhattan. “They’re saying, ‘Life’s too short – who knows what’s down the road.”’

Dr. Steven Brody says Alvarado Hospital Medical Center in San Diego has received roughly 25 percent more calls from new patients wanting to learn about overcoming infertility since the attacks.

“The concept is not (just) having a baby, it’s building a family,” says Brody, medical director of the hospital’s reproductive endocrinology unit. “I think that’s the priority that this disaster has made apparent to people.”

Right after the attacks, Dr. Matan Yemini, co-director of the Diamond Institute for Infertility and Menopause in Millburn, N.J., says some patients put plans on hold. But recent weeks have seen a surge in interest – and an unprecedented willingness in patients to talk frankly about their fertility problems.

“In a way, it’s opened people,” Yemini says of the terror attacks.

One population expert says major crises often cause people to procreate in an attempt to return to normalcy. But he’s not convinced there will be a baby boom this time, since the sagging economy may cause some people to postpone pregnancy.

“It could go either way,” says Douglas Bachtel, a demographer with the University of Georgia College of Family and Consumer Sciences.

After the planes hit, Travers says she realized the time for a child had arrived, as she believes it did for many women. Stapleton, also a 31-year-old mother-to-be, agrees.

“Before, my whole life was about what I could and couldn’t afford,” says Stapleton, whose husband works three blocks from ground zero. “Now, really, the only thing that’s important is that I have my husband and that I’m able to have a family.”

Travers knows there are some who question bringing a child into a war-torn world.

“But bad things will always happen,” she says. “And good things will always come out of them.”

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