Commentary: High school parents, fans need to be team players

Their role is in the stands, offering support and cheers, not berating officials, coaches and players.

By Karissa Niehoff and Mick Hoffman

For The Herald

Inappropriate adult behavior at high school athletic events in Washington has reached epidemic proportion.

When more than 2,000 high school athletic directors were asked in a recent national survey what they like least about their job, 62.3 percent said it was “dealing with aggressive parents and adult fans.”

And the men and women who wear the black-and-white stripes agree. In fact, almost 80 percent of officials quit after the first two years on the job, and unruly parents are cited as the reason why. As a result, there is a growing shortage of high school officials here in Washington, and in some sports like wrestling, swimming and track and field, the shortage is severe. No officials means no more games.

If you are a parent attending a high school athletic event this fall, you can help by following these six guidelines:

Act your age. You are, after all, an adult. Act in a way that makes your family and school proud.

Don’t live your life vicariously through your children. High school sports are for them, not you. Your family’s reputation is not determined by how well your children perform on the field of play.

Let your children talk to the coach instead of you doing it for them. High school athletes learn how to become more confident, independent and capable—but only when their parents don’t jump in and solve their problems for them.

Stay in your own lane. No coaching or officiating from the sidelines. Your role is to be a responsible, supportive parent; not a coach or official.

Participating in a high school sport is not about getting a college scholarship. According to the NCAA, only about 2 percent of all high school athletes are awarded a sports scholarship, and the total value of the scholarship is only about $18,000.

Make sure your children know you love watching them play. Do not critique your child’s performance on the car ride home. Participating in high school sports is about character development, learning and having fun; not winning and losing.

Purchasing a ticket to a high school athletic event does not give you the right to be rude, disrespectful or verbally abusive. Cheer loud and be proud, but be responsible and respectful.

The future of high school sports in Washington depends on you.

Karissa Niehoff is executive director of the National Federation of State High School Associations. Mick Hoffman is executive director of the Washington Interscholastic Activities Association.

Talk to us

More in Opinion

Editorial cartoons for Tuesday, May 26

A sketchy look at the day in the coronavirus pandemic (and politics).… Continue reading

Editorial: State officials’ pay raises poorly timed

Set by a citizen panel a year ago, the raises begin just as the state needs to make deep budget cuts.

Comment: The white privilege behind Biden’s ‘ain’t black’ quote

Believing black voters can be written out of group membership based on their vote is presumptuous.

Comment: Trump has name for those who tell truth: squealers

And their fate, as the White House Don has done frequently, is demotion or firing.

Snohomish barber has no right to threaten others’ health

It amazes me the intellectual ignorance of the citizens of our country… Continue reading

Mount St. Helens’ eruption offers COVID parallel

Recently I saw a TV interview with a woman from May 17,… Continue reading

Dam on Chehalis River would harm salmon, orcas

The Southern Resident orcas have captivated us for decades. To many of… Continue reading

Editorial cartoons for Monday, May 25, Memorial Day

A sketchy look at the day in the coronavirus pandemic (and politics).… Continue reading

Editorial: If not for yourself, wear face masks for others

Masks aren’t perfect, but studies are showing they can help limit the spread of the coronavirus.

Most Read