Paul Schoenfeld

How to raise children who turn into well-balanced adults

Through mindful parenting, your kids can grow up to be compassionate, kind and honest.


Don’t give up hope on helping older teenagers who seem lost

There is a fine line between helping your kids and enabling their unhealthy behavior.


How to help your anxious children cope with their fears

Reassurance is rarely helpful, and avoidance is not a solution. Here’s how to calm their worries.


Anxiety, or chronic worry, is a growing problem

Paul Schoenfeld shares four approaches to help keep your anxiety from getting out of control.

It’s better to give your children rewards than punishments

Paul Schoenfeld explains how positive reinforcement is far more effective than negative with kids.

Share and heal: Speak up about your feelings before its too late

Don’t keep your feelings to yourself. Small disappointments can grow into major resentments.

Look ahead to the new year, but take a look back at 2017 first

Use the last few days of December to prepare for the new year.

Parenthood training takes a lifetime of education

Very few of us have formal education in parenting. Our main instruction came from the universal course called “Watching Our Parents 201.” Our parents, in… Continue reading

Relationship do’s and don’ts: Lessons from 40 years of marriage

Paul Schoenfeld reflects on what he’s learned about relationships after four decades with his wife.

Give yourself the gift of self-care this holiday season

Here are some tips on how to deal with feelings of loss during this festive time of the year.

A recipe for a well-seasoned holiday

We all have stresses that detract from the experience, so let go of the less-meaningful traditions.

In this hectic life, it’s important to stop, listen and look

Columnist Paul Schoenfeld says to put down your phone and re-experience stillness, wonder and grace.

How to maintain your life’s balance amid change

Columnist Paul Schoenfeld shares some techniques for working toward a sense of stability.

Celebrate the courage of sexual harassment victims who speak up

Taking advantage of others is a human flaw, but so is silence, which maintains an evil status quo.

Our later years leaves us too much time for drinking

After retirement, happy hours may start earlier and last longer.

Turn on the lights: How to fight SAD symptoms this winter

Columnist Paul Schoenfeld lists ways to curb Seasonal Affective Disorder symptoms when it’s dark out.

Self-esteem is important, and it’s not the same as net worth

Having it all doesn’t necessarily bring happiness. Self-worth is the most important kind of wealth.

Workplace challenges: Getting along with difficult co-workers

Are you having trouble with a teammate? Paul Schoenfeld has some advice for working well together.

How to cope with tragedies — even distant ones

Writes Dr. Paul Schoenfeld: Talk about your feelings and acknowledge your fears.

Don’t wait for a natural disaster to reach out to others

Columnist Paul Schoenfeld shares his thoughts on gratitude, resilience and building community.