Paul Schoenfeld

Advice for becoming the person you’ve always wanted to be

You learn a lot as the director of The Everett Clinic’s Behavioral Health department for 25 years.

Why is that sons are so often disappointed in their fathers?

This is the story — with a lesson to learn — of a son who finds out that his father is dying.

‘Snowplow parents’ remove obstacles from their children’s lives

You know about “tiger moms” and “helicopter parents.” Here’s the latest controversial technique.

A psychologists’ thoughts after watching ‘A Star is Born’

Like in the movie starring Lady Gaga and Bradley Cooper, tragedy and triumph often appear together.

Why it’s important to stay flexible and fit as older adults

Our flexibility, balance, endurance and strength declines with age. Do all you can to combat it.

How much help is too much help for your grown children?

It’s not uncommon for parents to struggle over whether to help their adult kids financially.

What to do when you’re bored? Anything but look at your phone

We value entertainment and busyness (in the form of devices) as an antidote to boredom. Not so good.

Coping with death of a loved one by suicide is challenging

We don’t get over the loss of a friend or family member, but we do get used to it. Here’s how to cope.

Are we too connected? Or not connected enough?

Time will tell whether the social media revolution is a good thing or a bad thing.

We like things fast and easy in life, but is it the best way?

The short answer is no. Here are some examples of when less convenient may be more beneficial.

When things are out of your control, it’s best to let it go

As one friend said, “It’s OK to visit Pity City, but don’t rent an apartment there.”

The Big 5: The top marriage conflicts and how to resolve them

What causes the most trouble in committed relationships? Sex, children, money, in-laws and housework.

What to do when your parents and your partner don’t get along

Here are some important points to remember if you or your spouse are having in-law problems.

Study: Children and teens overdiagnosed with ADHD in the US

While 11 percent of kids 4-17 are diagosed, only 5 percent actually have attention problems.

Parenting is stressful; here’s how to be a more relaxed parent

Two full-time working parents have become the norm in America — mostly out of financial necessity.

When is the right time to make a resolution for a new you?

You can wait until New Year’s Eve to set forth goals — but it could be the wrong time to make a change.

Seven ways to keep from overstressing about the holidays

Research shows that there is a 37 percent increased risk of having a heart attack on Christmas Eve.

You don’t have to get straight A’s to find career success

Grades in school aren’t that important. You’d be surprised how little they matter.

Grieving for Christmas: How to cope with holiday sadness

The holiday season can be a mix of sweet and sad. Many of us have lost loved ones around this time.

How to balance your work and family lives to avoid burnout

Rule No. 1: Set limits, like taking work email off your smartphone, and stick to them.