Both as individuals and as a community, our hearts go out to the family of Bryan Hetherwick, his battle with depression ending so tragically recently in Monroe. We offer some suggestions to those who may have a friend or loved one suffering with depression and who may be looking for ways to help them:
The most important thing anyone can do for a depressed person is to help him or her get an appropriate diagnosis and treatment. The very nature of depressive illnesses can interfere with a person’s ability or wish to get help. Seriously depressed people need encouragement from family and friends to seek treatment to ease their pain. Some people need even more help, becoming so depressed, they must be taken for treatment. Don’t ignore suicidal thoughts, words or acts. Seek professional help immediately.
The second most important thing is to offer emotional support, including understanding, patience, affection and encouragement. Engage the depressed person in conversation and listen carefully.
Invite the depressed person for walks, outings, to the movies and other activities. The depressed person needs diversion and company, but don’t make too many demands which could increase feelings of failure.
Do not accuse the depressed person of faking illness or of laziness, or expect him or her to “snap out of it.” Eventually, with treatment, most people do get better. Keep that in mind, and keep reassuring the depressed person that, with time and help, he or she will feel better.
JIM BLOSS, President
National Alliance for the Mentally Ill of Snohomish County
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