Teenagers and young adults feel so much pressure these days. They worry about “kid stuff,” such as homework and curfews and making new friends. And they fret about adult topics as well, including choosing a career direction, finding a job and even paying off debt.
Maybe the pressure started when their teachers and relatives asked a seemingly harmless question again and again, “What do you want to be when you grow up?” Perhaps they overheard too many grown-up conversations that ended in the words, “We can’t afford that.”
Regardless of the history, we have a generation of kids on our hands who need support with issues that used to be reserved for adults — like money, jobs and navigating the challenges of a tough economy. Here are a few ways that you can help:
Begin with a candid discussion. When faced with too many choices, many people (especially teens and young adults) do nothing at all. They lay their options down like playing cards, look them over, and then second-guess every thought, idea or plan that comes to mind. They wonder if they should go to college or build a career straight out of high school; study art, finance, engineering or environmental science; apply for jobs with small businesses and major corporations, nonprofits or industry associations.
Start up a conversation. Listen, talk and listen some more. What does your teen or young adult (son, daughter, friend, student, neighbor) need in order to feel good about him or herself? A steady paycheck? Creative outlet? Long-term career options? College degree? Give advice when asked, but try not to churn out lessons or anecdotes that serve your needs while leaving your kid in the dark.
Make a list of skills. Many young adults need help narrowing down their career options. Instead of discussing long-range dreams, encourage them to make a list of the talents and skills that they use in their daily lives. They may be particularly good at troubleshooting computers, organizing projects or taking the lead in group situations. They might have special abilities in mathematics, woodworking or graphic design. Now, determine which careers match these natural aptitudes.
Be a role model. As a mature adult, you have the experience and knowledge to make your way through hard times. You may have dealt with financial challenges, career transitions and a long list of accomplishments and obstacles along the way. In general, kids don’t have the luxury of first-hand experience. They rely on adults for insight and support.
Even if you aren’t a parent or educator, you can still make a big impact in people’s lives. Lead by example. Show everyone around you — teens and adults — what it looks like to live a cheerful, balanced life. Make it clear that a person can be happy in almost any position, dream job or not, as long as you give yourself (and your family) what you need to feel joy and contentment.
If you happen to know some kids who carry the burden of the economy on their shoulders, try to ease the load. But don’t forget to give them room to make their own decisions. If they’re pointed toward the future, they’re headed in the right direction.
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