Vitality: Ways to cope and thrive through the holiday season

  • Melanie Munk, editor
  • Wednesday, November 2, 2011 2:38pm
  • Life

Just because you still have a moldering pumpkin on your front porch doesn’t mean another holiday season isn’t rushing toward you.

Every year, it comes earlier.

And every year, many of us still have expectations for storybook holidays, the best Christmas ever, filled with fabulous food and mannerly children who clear the table without being asked. Sometimes, the children are in their 40s.

A few tips on holiday survival seem in order. There are no real tricks to avoiding disappointment and despair here, just simple reminders: Have a plan. Start early. Don’t spend more than you have. Remember what’s important.

With those in mind, what better way to mark the holidays than by passing on some family traditions?

We hope to inspire you to spend time with your grandmother or granddaughters, to pass on your own favorite family recipes, or to learn one.

We share 10 trips that will keep you entertained and on the go.

We have some advice on getting to Grandma’s house, or at least getting your gifts to Grandma’s house.

We visited Edmonds Senior Center in our continuing tour of area senior centers.

And we introduce you to Selma Bonham, a renaissance woman so busy at 86 that we had a hard time catching up with her.

I hope you find something that makes the holidays a little easier to get through, more fun, but, mostly, more meaningful. Because ready or not, Christmas is coming!

Get out of town: 10 trips and hikes to keep you busy this fall and winter.

Pass the recipe: Tips for handing down your best dishes to new cooks.

The rush: The best way to deal with holiday travel and shipping? Plan ahead.

Breaking the mold: 86-year-old Selma Bonham has never settled for ordinary.

Keep learning: Program offers classes in biology, literature, music theory, art and more.

Innovation in Edmonds: New wellness program and clinic coming to senior center.

Money management: What to do when a relative can no longer handle finances alone.

Unhappy holidays: Healthy ways to cope with stress and sadness.

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