‘Daring Greatly’: Advice for fulfillment in life, work

  • By Lillian Cunningham The Washington Post
  • Friday, October 12, 2012 10:10pm
  • Life

In her book, “Daring Greatly: How the Courage to be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent and Lead,” University of Houston professor Brene Brown explores how vulnerability leads to a more fulfilling life.

Brown shared her thoughts on how today’s workplace often hinders that pursuit.

“I think it’s a combination of technology and the economic realities, where so many people are doing more than one job. The expectations of what we can get done, and how well we can do it, are beyond human scale,” she said.

“And because there’s always this readily available technology and you can get your emails all night long, there’s no stopping and celebrating or acknowledging the accomplishment of anything. We can’t turn off our machines. We’re afraid we’re going to miss something.”

Brown said that most often heard in exit interviews is, “I never got any feedback.”

“That’s the piece that I still find the most shocking,” she said. “How can you lead an organization when you don’t know how to have those conversations?”

She called the term “crazy-busy” a great armor. “We stay so busy, and so out in front of our life, that the truth of how we’re feeling and what we really need can’t catch up with us.”

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