Over the course of many years practicing pediatrics, studying child development, observing families and growing humble as a father, I have learned a number of lessons about the very fine art of parenting. I have distilled the wisdom I have been taught by children and their families into 10 basic pri
nciples, practices and guidelines. I hope you will find them meaningful.
1. Follow your heart: Children sense when adults are being sincere. Besides, you can usually trust your emotions to lead you in the right direction. And you’ll model for your children how to communicate honestly.
2. Appreciate each child’s strengths and respect limits: All children have intrinsic worth and special qualities. Each child has abilities in some areas and challenges in others. Our job is to encourage them to stretch within safe and acceptable boundaries.
3. Honor differences that distinguish each child: Even within the same family, children have their own personalities from the start. We have to get to know and understand the nature of each individually.
4.Set consistent, secure boundaries: Children feel courageous enough to explore their limits when they also feel comfortable that they won’t hurt or embarrass themselves. Teach them how to balance self-control and self-will.
5. Know and respect your own emotional thresholds and physical limits: Children need their parents’ best attention and decisions, so taking care of yourself is also in the best interest of your children.
6. Make and keep your own friends and support systems: Life outside of parenting restores energy for the job and takes some of the pressure off you and your children. It also teaches children the value of being connected.
7. Ask for help: Interdependence is healthier than independence. Loneliness is depressing and depression is paralyzing. Teach children the advantages of relationships and support.
8. Spend time with a child when you can’t be interrupted: Children want and need our company. They also know when our attention is divided. Protect some time each day when you can devote yourself to your child’s interests.
9. Learn from disappointments: We always learn more from our mistakes than from our successes, especially if we remember that our intrinsic worth is not linked to a bad decision.
10. Value your parental love and guidance: Children who grow up caring to succeed and contribute guarantee a healthier, better-educated, wealthier, stronger and more humane society.
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