Singles losing out to family politics, advocates claim

By David Crary

Associated Press

NEW YORK — Roughly 82 million strong, unmarried adults form one of the biggest demographic blocs in the nation. But converting those numbers into political clout is a daunting task.

When leaders of the American Association for Single People swung through congressional offices recently — complaining tax policies are stacked against them — one legislative aide challenged every point they made. Others were attentive, but some snickered and rolled their eyes.

"Family, family, family" was the message that the association’s executive director, Thomas Coleman, kept hearing, from Democrats and Republicans alike. At one point, he asked a Republican adviser why President Bush talks so often about families and so rarely about unmarried Americans.

"What’s so wrong with the word ‘single?’ " Coleman wondered. "He’s the president of all the people — why can’t he once in a while say the word? It would make people feel wanted and needed."

Census data released this month show that alternative household arrangements are increasing across the United States more rapidly than households headed by married couples. There are larger percentages of people living alone — nearly 26 percent of all households — and of unmarried couples living together.

Yet, lawmakers in Washington and state legislatures rarely target their speeches or bills at singles.

Instead, said University of Southern California sociologist Judith Stacey, unmarried adults often are disadvantaged by tax, insurance and employment policies. The government’s emphasis is on making it easier to raise a family, not to live alone.

"We have larger numbers of single people than ever in history, and yet we’re actively promoting discrimination against them," Stacey said. "It’s as though being single is a social disgrace."

For groups promoting the traditional family structure, however, it makes sense to place singles lower on the political totem pole.

"The institution of marriage has a whole spectrum of benefits for children, which spill over into benefits to society," said Matt Daniels, executive director of the Alliance for Marriage. "It’s perfectly acceptable for a society to choose, as a matter of public policy, to provide special treatment for parents who are married and raising children."

Singles-rights advocates, by and large, don’t complain about programs benefiting children. They do complain about what they perceive as inequities, such as employment benefits reserved for married workers or housing policies accommodating married couples but not unmarried partners.

Dorian Solot, co-founder of the Boston-based Alternatives to Marriage Project, said politicians have not kept pace with the increasing diversity of American home life.

"They cling to the image of cookie-cutter neighborhoods where every household is the same, yet it hasn’t been that way for a while," she said.

On the Net: American Association for Single People: www.unmarriedamerica.com

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