Paul Schoenfeld

What should we tell our kids? Tell them the truth, always

There is a difference between not telling a child everything about a complicated life event and telling them a boldface lie.

Take it from me: Advice for couples in long-term relationships

The top two lessons to learn are 1) don’t give unsolicited advice and 2) don’t try to change your partner.

Dr. Paul: Looking within yourself helps build your self-esteem

Courageous endeavors, acts of loving kindness and helping oneself and others improves self-respect.

Dr. Paul on mothers and fathers surviving the adolescence war

Summertime on the home front: Teens still need adult authority and limits — even if it is only to rebel against.

How to cope with pandemic letdown in face of delta variant

It’s not over until it’s over. The whole world is still dealing with a COVID-19. It is OK to be disappointed and sad.

Take long view on the big and small decisions of parenthood

It’s important to consider the bigger picture — the values and traits you hope to nurture in your children.

Having a midlife crisis? It’s a good time for reflection

Middle age presents great opportunities to reshape your priorities for the coming decades.

Parenting 201: Developing relationships with your adult children

They have to decide what kind of adult relationship they want to have with us, too — close, distant, or something in between.

Rewards, not punishment, the more effective parenting tool

Rewarding positive behavior in your children encourages cooperation and community-minded deeds.

Has the pandemic messed up your sleep? These tips can help

In March, The American Academy of Sleep Medicine found that close to 60% of people surveyed said their sleep was troubled.

After a tough year, don’t get your hopes up for summer vacation

If you leave your expecations at home, you’re more likely to enjoy your family trip. Here are some tips.

You’re not lazy: The psychology behind procrastination

Psychologists say we procrastinate to avoid unpleasant emotions associated with a task, not the work itself.

When it’s all said and done, remember what’s truly important

Love is what that sustains us, defines us and connects us to each other in the lives we live.

Dr. Paul on why recovering from pandemic stress will take time

When we’re exposed to sustained stress, recovery doesn’t occur immediately after the stressor is removed.

Dr. Paul on developing self-awareness for better self-control

Hold a mirror up: By seeing yourself as others see you, you’re more likely to become the person you hope to be.

How to rethink your opinions and most important decisions

The author of the new book “Think Again” argues that keeping an open mind is a teachable skill.

Patience and kindness are essential ingredients for a happy home

Here are ways to cultivate and nurture greater patience for your partner during trying times.

Deal with pandemic fatigue by leaning into your experience

Don’t push your malaise away or distract yourself. Pay attention to how you feel, and see what happens.

Four ways to help kids and teens cope with COVID-19 stresses

The pandemic is taking a toll on the mental health of our children. Here’s how you can assist them.

Look closely at the beautiful dance we call everyday life

A Pacific Northwest Ballet performance is a not-so-metaphorical reminder to celebrate the beauty of life.