Paul Schoenfeld

Coming home for the summer: Your college student and you

It can be tough going and conflicts will arise, but don’t worry, parents — they’ll be back in school soon.

Mindfulness is all the rage. But what is it exactly?

Why should we aspire to greater mindfulness? And how do we actually achieve it?

Instead of happiness, why not pursue well-being?

The qualities of well-being are far more enduring than the fleeting satisfaction of getting what you want.

How to slay — or at least cope with — the ‘green monster’

Jealousy, which has its roots in caveman days, can stem from a first romance that ended in rejection.

Asking for help: Why it’s so difficult for some people

We think nothing of helping others, but somehow, we’re uncomfortable when we might need help.

Navigating the rough, often scary seas of a hospital stay

After helping a friend who underwent major surgery, Paul Schoenfeld reflects on ways to cope for patients and their loved ones.

The keys to coping with an inevitability of life: worry

Be prepared, have realistic expectations, and be confident in your inner strength and resources.

Our teens are in crisis — what can parents do?

There has been an epidemic of anxiety and depression among teens, especially during the pandemic.

These days, the innocence of childhood is more fleeting than ever

In recent weeks, a man armed with an automatic weapon shot and injured 10 people in a subway car in New York. It shut down… Continue reading

Does love last? Can we keep the home fires burning?

Don’t take your partner for granted, Paul Schoenfeld advises. Strive to connect with — all day, every day.

Some observations gleaned from the journey to old age

Among them: Be a student of your life, accept the inevitable changes of older age and being generous with yourself .

Finding a place for life’s pain to lessen its impact

We can explore the landscape of our life’s events, mine our memory and craft a narrative that makes sense to us.

How do we cope with the horrific war in Ukraine?

It’s distant from our everyday lives, but the war ignites our nervous systems, and our bodies don’t like sustained stress.

Men, it’s never too late to learn to take care of yourselves

The “tough it out” mindset means many wait too long to see a doctor when something’s wrong. Bad idea!

How to help your youngster become a successful adult

It’s more important to nurture and model good character than to stuff them full of facts and figures.

Don’t get trapped in the rabbit hole of roads not taken

Unexpected twists and turns in the road will arise. Those curve balls can help us grow and mature.

What are your plans for reaching retirement?

The goal is to prepare effectively to make a transition into a different lifestyle.

It’s normal for kids to struggle with their homework

It seems to me that kids are getting more homework. It’s not uncommon for first graders to come home with homework. And every subsequent year… Continue reading

Everybody needs to be patient with and sensitive to others

No matter how frustrated you get, you can’t impose your expectations on others.

It’s important to be the person you want your kids to become

Be thoughtful about the seeds you want to nurture in your child’s life. These seeds, when watered and cultivated, will grow into the plants you hope will bloom.